Chandrawati Prasad
(5 December 1944 – 13 August2022)
A great daughter, sister, wife, mother, and loving grandmother.
This is a story of a woman, a strong woman, memorable for caring, mesmerizing love, and foremost, being independent and brave in a conservative part of Patna, Bihar.
A strong woman lived her whole life with lots of struggles but accepted all the challenges of life with courage and patience.
Mom’s favorite food was rice and fish curry in her childhood. When she became an adult then she really liked indo Chinese food chowmein, manchurian and chilli paneer.
Early Life
Our mother was born to a middle-class family in Baliya, UP on 5th December 1944, the daughter of Bindeshwari Prasad. She was raised in Buxar, Bihar near the river Ganga. She was the eldest daughter of her family among 6 siblings. She was the most lovable and responsible daughter. She was her father’s favorite daughter and she used to call him babu ji. Her childhood life was awesome and she was surrounded by her parent’s families. She was very much attached to her grandmother.
She was very good atstudies and her favorite subject was Math. Her mother used to call her Indira Gandhi. She wanted to become a teacher but due to family constraints, she could not do any job.
She was a very good swimmer. She used to swim a lot in the river Ganga along with her friends and siblings. When she was 9 years old, she was about to be drowned, but someone saved her life by god’s grace.
She started cooking when she was only 11 years old. She was a very passionate cook and won everyone’s hearts with her cooking skills.
Youth Life
She got married to our father, Sri Mohan Prasad, and was blessed with five daughters in Patna, Bihar.
Her father-in-law used to like her a lot and especially her food. She used to be worried a lot about others for food whoever ate food,did they eat properly or not, or are they still hungry?She was a great host and used to make a delicious feast for others.
Soon, her challenges commence…She broke her right palm while cleaning the sink. A doctor tried to treat it with candles, but it burnt her hand a little, and her palm bones shattered, she took quick action and went to another doctor. She thought they were going to cut her right palm but thankfully she consulted another doctor who operated by cutting a piece of bone from her right thigh and fixed it into her palm. She was admitted to the hospital for about a month and then she recovered.
Apart from cooking, she did a lot of stuff since she was very active. For example, she made a lot of dresses for us. She knew all kinds of embroideries, kneading, and tailoring. She was a very good teacher and paid attention to our studies.
She was very devoted to God and used to wake up the whole night to do ramnavmi puja. She has all the rules for puja and followed all the traditional customs.
Our dad and mom lived their life so they could raise their children. They did not pay attention to themselves but only worried about their children’s education, marriage, and other needs. They used to buy new clothes for their children only and not for themselves. They did this so that they can save money for their children’s needs.
They fulfilled all our desires whatever it was. Stuff like studies, tuition, or any other extracurricular activities or any school trip.
Unfortunately, our father passed away when he was only 50 years old due to a sudden heart attack and by the doctor’s wrong diagnosis. Our mother was devasted. She was so young and had all of the responsibilities of 5 daughters on her shoulder all alone.
None of our relatives helped our mother. Our maternal grandmother and maternal uncle stayed for a few months with us but no one else helped mentally, financially, or physically.
But our beloved greatmothertook this challenge as well and continued giving strength to her daughters. She went everywhere along with us like our exams or any outstation centers. She was our backbone. She educated all her daughters very well and made us engineers.
Unfortunately,her eldest daughter also passed away suddenly, and our mother was heartbroken. She used to cry a lot but in front of us, she showed all courage and helped us to move on.
She got the rest of her daughters married to good families and blessed with grandkids.
Old Age Life
Her health was not keeping up well. She used to get admitted to the hospital more frequently, sometimes 3 times a year. She still showed all courage and helped all her grandkids to grow. She always worried about her grandkids’ studies and encouraged us to pay attention to our kids.
She used to eat 15 medicines in a day and her life was still a struggle life due to regular hospital admission.
Unfortunately,one dark day she left us alone in this world after the wrong medical treatment in the Noida hospital. We are so devasted that we could not do her proper treatment even though there were so many good hospitals in Delhi NCR.
Our life is empty, but we are learning from our mother’s courage to survive. Our mother Chandrawati Devi is a role model for us and every woman in this world.
